Have you ever felt like an asshole? Me? Yeah more then I can count. But have you ever felt like such an asshole that you hate yourself for being such an asshole?

My distant cousins sister from his previous family died. We missed the funeral but we’re going to the after party dinner basically a week later. Its going to be so fucking awkward I don’t want to go. Granted this is my favorite cousin, but i never even knew he had a sister and I don’t want to make him feel worse by saying “sorry that your sister died.”

I always feel like the best course of action is to stay the fuck away from them if you’re not closely related to them in his immediate family. Right now isn’t a time for remembering. Right now is a time for getting over it so in the future I can actually mention his sister without feeling like he’s going to cry over it.

So I don’t want to go. Am I an asshole for that?