gibsterlife:

Ok but this is actually the most succinct argument on why the friend zone is bad I’ve ever seen

Man I don’t like the term either but know what it means.The “FRIENDZONE” doesn’t imply that it’s bad that every woman only wants to be friends with you. Being “Friendzoned” is used to describe feeling declined usually after confessing to someone you’re in love with.

 If I tell the girl of my dreams that I love her and she replies that she’d rather stay friends? Yeah. You could say I’ve been friendzoned. That’s the definition of the word. But if I happen to have a lot of female friends, that doesn’t mean I’ve been friendzoned by every single female.

The term is only used and reserved for if sex or a deeper relationship is your incentive. You like having women as friends? That’s good for you. But it’s not wrong to want to try to find your significant other. Rather it’s wrong to believe women owe you something. If there’s no connection and the feelings are not mutual, you have no choice but to settle for friendship if they even want to stay friends at that point. There’s literally nothing wrong with that.

God I hate hearing people demonize men for trying and failing at love but no one bats an eye when a women only wants to marry a stable man so she doesn’t have to work or so she can benefit more from the marriage.